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[LUV2BMOM]

Hi. . .

We're new here to the forum and relatively new to hs'ing. We have a 5yr. old ds who we're schooling in K this year. . .or should I say trying! We just got the book "Transforming the Difficult" and I am almost finished w/reading about Step 1.

I guess I'm reachng out to those who have had more experience w/difficult dc than I. I'm pretty much at my witts end here w/my ds. Yesterday he couldn't have been better. Today, we went to a hs'ing event, met dad for lunch & all "heck" broke loose this afternoon. I sent him to his room & he broke every single lamp in his room. I lost my mind! I spent last weekend clearing out his room of everything I thought he could break. . .well, lot of good that did! Don't know what to to do now. His room is where we read our night-time read-alouds & quiet down, so now what do I do?

I know in my heart that the good Lord above will not give us anymore than we can handle, but I'm feeling like this is so much "more" than I'm equipped to handle.

Today at the hs'ing event when all the other kids were rather quietly listening, our ds ws on his own, playing w/the dirt & he would occasionally scream or come & make a spitting sound at the woman speaking. I was horrified.

Please someone tell me it will get better & stay better! I'm having an awful hard time riding this roller coaster.

Thanks in advance for listening!
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[Jan]

We're happy to hear that you're wanting to use the approach techniques.

I'm assuming that you're ready to implement or have already started using the video moments. If in the past, you've been very energized on his less than desirable behaviors, a shift to energizing on only the good things you see is probably very foreign to him. You will see your child "test" to see if this is only temporary and old parenting techniques will resume.

Hang in there. Stay energized on the successes (big and small): not breaking the rules, following directions, a smile. We've got a great group of parents here to offer support and ideas.

We wish you well on your jounery towards transformation.

[kelly2272]

Keep up the good work. It is hard. Work hard to make the video moments a habit so it will come more naturally during the hard times.

[jan]

how about an update? What have you discovered about your child over the last year or so?
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